Bulimia Help

i think if you want your mum to help you then you should think about telling her, the note thing is a good idea,
if you still don't think you can handle telling your parents this yet you can always make an appointment to see a doctor, you don't have to tell the person on the phone what the appointment is for and its all confidential, they won't tell you parents,
when you go to see the doctor, take the note you were thinking of writing your mum, included whats going on and how your feeling and how its effecting your life and confidence. you doctor then may refer you for councelling sessions, then this way even if you do not yet find the courage to talk to your mum about it, you can work through things in those sessions. i wish you all the best you are so young and have your whole adult life ahead of you, i hope you can get over this while your young and go on to do really well in college / uni . xxxx

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hey! i thought the EXACT same thing about my mom. I thought she would shout and not take me seriously. But when she did find out, she was very supportive. Obviously not everyone will have that experience but people can surprise you sometimes.
I had thought about telling my parents for a while before they found out. I would have written a note if I had told. I really admire you for wanting more help! I never got the guts to tell them and I wish I had. Good luck!

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Catherine

My mom pretty much knew.. After 3 years of visiting the restroom after meals or even snacks, she began checking on me.. Making sure I was "ok".... I knew she knew.. One day I just told her.. she cried and asked me if I needed professional help. (psychiatrists do not help; they only prescribe medication).. I'm trying to self-help myself.. It's not really working.. I've gotten it down to every other day I believe.. Staying busy kinda helps.. I dunno.. My mom and I are pretty close.. She just wants to help.. Usually she'll tell me to stop eating when she knows I've reached my limit.. I X and * dates on the calendar so that she can see my progress.. It's scattered.. working on that.. If I can do anything to help, let me know..

this is tricky...have you told anyone else about it? if you parents are the first people, and your nervous, maybe tell like a guidance counselor (i know it sounds gay, but i had AWESOME guidance counselors in h.s. though, they knew all about my ED, my mother, my drug issues, my stint in juvie, everything!) or a teacher that youre close with (uh, female) or like, your best friends mom even? or a family friend? someone you can trust, that would semi-get it and know how to tell your parents. also would be good just to let it out to SOMEONE before the big parental conference. it doesn't sound like you have any support around you, or that your mom even notices you're suffering..(wants you to be perfect? 4.0g pa?) :( and maybe when you do tell them, (i told my husband through a note) cause we all know how ignorant people are about EDs, that you focus on the shit you feel inside, not big scary bulimia. i dunno if your family eats dinners together or what but sometimes things get AWKWARD if the whole family isnt ready to accept what youre dealing with. thats whats sucks so hard about telling parents- sometimes they make it worse. that's why i recommend telling someone on the outside that you can trust first. even like a religious leader? when my parents found out it made things hell- because i wasn't ready to give it up, they were judging, grossed out, mean, and flat out just don't understand what's going on. but your parents love you and you can't move forward by sitting still if that makes sense...my husband is the reason i'm able to recover...knock on wood... and you're only a year in!.. you can get out of this and enjoy growing up without an ED..unlike alot of other people.

anyways, GOOD LUCK!!!!!!! let me know how it goes!!!!