Share what has WORKED for you!

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vikinggirl
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Share what has WORKED for you!

Since this is a support site, I think it will be good to share with others what things you have tried that have actually worked for you. Please share! Here are a few of mine:
1. Avoid known binge foods at the beginning. If the only safe foods are cereal and apples then so be it!
2. Wear loose or stretchy clothes so the feeling of fullness will not create discomfort and lead to anxiety.
3. Trust that if you get eating and stop restricting then you will NOT have the urge to binge any more. I believe the Bulimia really is a bodily reaction to severe dieting and food denial.
4. If you are a 12 step group person then pray to God each day to lift the compulsion to binge and purge.
5. Do other stuff to keep busy and try to forget about eating.
6. Eat three meals plus a couple of snacks including some kind of a treat, as the program says, each day.

Sick since 1976

Rose16841
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1. Accept that relapses are

1. Accept that relapses are likely to happen and that each one is an important learning tool in recovery. This leads nicely onto my next tip....
2. Keep a recovery journal. This is a great way to help analyse relapses and work out what does and doesn't work well for you in recovery.....personally I use my journal to analyse any relapses, write down what positive changes I've made, goals for the week, positive recovery quotes etc :) it's great when you can then read through your entries and actually see for yourself how far you've come :)
3. Embrace SE!! It's scary at first and goes again your bulimic mindset....but it's the only way! Restriction does lead to binging.....and the earlier we accept this the better :)
4. Try to find some positive recovery quotes to keep you on track....these will help you when you're having a tough day and need some inspiration. (If anyone needs help with this I've got plenty!!)
5. Be aware of triggers! Write a list of potential triggers and how you could avoid/deal with these. For example, for me being home alone during the day can be triggering. When I have a day off from uni/work I have a plan of action to keep me busy....

Jemima
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1. SE has hugely helped

1. SE has hugely helped me!
2. Thought and binge defusion has really helped me too. I use it for everything now, not just binge urges. For instance if I am getting stressed over how someone is acting at work I take a second to think "I am having the thought that this colleague doesn't like me" etc and I feel so much better putting the distance between myself and these silly thoughts!
3. Being kinder to myself. Instead of looking in the mirror and picking apart my body, I always try to approach the mirror with a positive attribute in mind to deflect any negatives I may be wanting to critique.
4. Mindfullness during eating and also between meals when I feel hungry.

Jemima

Angel333
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1: Stick to eating a

1: Stick to eating a structured and planned out meal plan
2: Stay away from binge foods/trigger foods
3: Do not overeat or undereat - either one causes me to trigger
4: Keep away from triggering people/situations/occasions
5: logging onto this site esp during the tough times
6: Avoid weighing myself
7: Eating adequate calorie intake each day
8: Eating more calories on the days I exercise
9: Fueling my body correctly (Keeping away from sugar laden and processed foods)
10: Working on my Self Image through self help books, websites, using affirmations, practising changing my thoughts etc

Not ideal to avoid triggers all my life, however at this stage of recovery its working for me and I look forward to the day I can be around triggering foods and situations and for it not to affect me

'We are each of us angels with only one wing, so we can only fly by embracing each other'

Coach Jen
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Wow you are all so spot-on! I

Wow you are all so spot-on! I couldn't have said it better myself!

Here's what changed things for me in my recovery:

1. Remember that you only get rid of up to half of what you eat when you purge. Its so not worth it!

2. Practice self-care. You deserve it even if you don't think so.

3. Like Rose said, keep a recovery journal and track relapses to recognize patterns.

4. Trust yourself and your body. Also trust structured eating. Its scary, but worth it in the end.

5. Keep faith that you can recover. I had a therapist tell me that people don't fully recover from eating disorders, they only manage them in a functional way. Recovery doesn't mean to become a better functioning bulimic. It means to recover for life!

I could list 100 more things but you are all doing a great job with your lists. I love this topic!

Izzyloma
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To keep myself from purging,

To keep myself from purging, I will often chew gum shortly after eating.
I find eating slowly is very helpful to help me be more in tune with my actual hunger and keep me from binging.
I will freeze pre- portioned seasoned ( sweet or savory) cottage and Greek yogurt and eat with a tiny salt spoon, it really helps slow me down and as a result better register my hunger level.
Diffusion is really helpful but I have only just started to practice it, I hope to get better and better at it with practice.
I would like to share with you my favorite inspirational quote: "a crisis is an opportunity for change", we have got to change whatever our bulimic minds have been tricking us to do to keep us in the eating disorder prison in order to break free.
Thank you for sharing so many good tips.
Izzy

sharon.kieran@h...
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my problem is i plan to purge

my problem is i plan to purge before i even start to binge once i have the thoughts to do so, that's exactly what happens!! even knowing its wrong i'l still do it. i mainly b/p out of boredom, plus I have very strong discomfort with any food inside me, I even c/s all my food and whatever goes down in the saliva that's what i p back!

ElsieSoproni
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I've made a few rules for

I've made a few rules for myself that have helped me a lot with controlling myself around food, even when I'm alone.
1) At mealtimes I decide what goes on my plate BEFORE I start eating anything, and all of it has to be there on the plate, me sitting down at the table, before any is eaten. Usually when I want to eat for the wrong reasons I want to block it from my mind, which is impossible to do when you are serving yourself and sitting at the table. Being this deliberate discourages me from eating when I am not actually hungry.
2) NO FOOD IN THE BEDROOM.
3) I am not allowed to eat while doing anything else. I got a text during lunch today and I made myself finish chewing and swallow before I picked up my phone. Maybe it seems a little extreme, but for me I would rather stay as far from the line as possible.

99% of my problems start when I am eating out of the package or while I'm doing something else, so I started implementing these (and telling my roommates so they can give me a gentle reminder) to help me avoid those situations. I actually do BETTER now when I eat with people. I've started doing fun meals with my brother/best friend periodically so we can cook new things and have fun. It keeps me occupied in the hours after dinner, which is the danger zone.

freakyblonde88
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In 18 days I will have my 2

In 18 days I will have my 2 year anniversary of recovery. What I've learned are the following:

1. We put too much on ourselves all at once "Stop drinking, stop smoking, stop eating, stop bingeing, stop purging, stop feeling)
2. Everything is possible one step at a time.
3. Delving into emotions is uncomfortable, but essential to recovery.
4. Realize that life is too short not to be happy, so do what makes you happy.
5. You deserve the best that life has to offer.
6. Get rid of your calorie counting and scales
7, Start eating something (Anything) every three hours.
8. Celebrate the Tiniest victories ( This one is important, cause we may not see it as much, but every step you take is bigger then you think, and you are awesome for taking it)
9. Eat, food is not your enemy. Eat slowly, use the guided audio or simply time on a clock, decide that every ,meal must take 15 mins minimum and each snack must take 10 minutes, sit in the same place when you eat if possible, so you only associate food with that place.
10. Throw away the scales, calorie counters etc. Don't measure or weigh anything. Life is about more then that.
11. Stop watching shows like, Top Model, Biggest Loser, Anything that focuses on looks/weight. (not worth it)
12. Write it down, when you start feeling emotions don't bury them in food/toilet. Write them down, It really helps.( It's so astounding to read those once recovered as well ;-)
13. Be active, enjoy what your body can do and how amazing it is
14. Create a "trauma timeline", dig into your past, how, what, when, who where, which emotions/situations, causes, effects etc.

Don't be afraid to feel like crap, gain a bit of weight, eat some food, cry a lot, hit rock bottom, then there is only one way up.

Sick since 2007
Recovered since 2012

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