trying to be guilt free

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SMILE X
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trying to be guilt free

Hi,

I've never posted anything before so feeling a little afraid. I got a surge of guilt about something totally non related to food last night and ended up eating more than planned which I felt bad about because I managed 9 days sticking to the structured eating really well. I am proud I've managed around 6 months without purging but still have times of binging, well what I class as binging (friends and family usually think i'm being too hard on myself when I tell them what I think is too much). I was hoping for some good tips on how to separate those uncomfortable emotions from eating and food, any advice would be great :-).

Thanks,

Steph

Steph

Ruth
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Hi Steph, I struggle with

Hi Steph,
I struggle with guilt a lot. It helps me to write down the issue that I'm feeling guilty about and see what steps I can take to change. If it is a real guilty feeling....then all you have to do is take steps to change it and make it right. The only thing you can change is yourself or your reactions to things. You can't change other people or sometimes even situations you find yourself in. You also need to feel worthy of love and self respect. In the end....the thinking about guilt is not going to change anything.

Good luck,
Becca

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A lot of time I will feel

A lot of time I will feel guilt about something I have done in my past, and I believe sometimes it is a nudge for me to do something about it. Make amends in some way. Do an action. I find that the guilt, those feelings really start coming up while in recovery. While I am in the disease, I am so tuned out to what has happened, and I cope with any uncomfortable feelings that may come up by using food. I am good at "blocking" those thoughts out. Then of course there is guilt that is totally made up and blown up from my past. It is not mine, but it does not to be looked at. I think the only way to see what is going on, is like Becca said, write it down! Look at it! Combat the guilt, the fear with truth. Look at it from a different perspective Do you need to do something about it? Does someone need an apology? Is it necessary?Does it serve any purpose? Is it true? Is there anything I can do to make this better? Then...move one! Get on with your life. You are NOT your guilt. This is not you.Remember, you are not your feelings. You don't need to let them control you. Give it up. Let it go. Sending you love. I know that these feelings can be intense, but they will will pass.

to thine own self be true

SMILE X
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I can't believe I've just

I can't believe I've just read this! thanks sooooo much becca and larrisag. I know you wrote this a long time ago but karma has been good to me to find this reply on this day, my birthday :-). I am so very grateful to you both and plan to utilise your wonderful advice during this year of travelling I began 16 days ago. Hope you both find this message on a beautiful day, guilt free and full of love and happiness.
Best wishes,
Steph x

Steph

Ruth
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Steph, Thanks for the

Steph,
Thanks for the positive feedback. I haven't been on here for so long.....and I definitely need it.

Hope you are doing well,
Becca

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