Are you putting your dreams on hold?

Catherine Liberty's picture

We all know how bulimia can force us to put our dreams on hold. For the ten years that I struggled with bulimia I didn’t have time to even think about what I truly wanted from my life. There had been so many missed opportunities and I had experienced so many “failures” throughout the years that I often found myself thinking “what’s the point?”

The bulimic voice in my head was always so quick to silence my aspirations too

It was always there waiting to remind me that there was no time to make life goals. That there was no point in planning for the future, unless of course those future plans included bulimia nervosa - restriction, impossible weight-loss targets or trying out the latest dangerous fad diets – those kinds of goals my inner bulimic voice fully endorsed. 

For so many years bulimia forced me to put my real dreams on hold

But then came recovery, and that’s where everything started to change. Of course you can’t just jump straight into that dream-chasing because recovery really demands all of your attention in those first few months. 

A friend once said to me “don’t put your dreams on hold for any longer than you need to” and that was something that really resonated with me because I realized that sometimes there can be a “need” to put our dreams on hold. 

There may be a real need to pause the pursuit of those big life dreams so that you’re able to focus all of your time and energies into recovery (although it helps to remember that recovery is a pretty big life dream in itself). But as soon as you begin to feel stable and contented in your recovery, then it’s time to start pursuing those dreams!

What are some of the things that you’ve always wanted to do but felt bulimia was stopping you?

For me, getting married and finding my “dream job” were two of the biggest things on my hit list. And you know what? I’ve been married for almost 2 years now AND I’ve been working here for Bulimia Help, in what I can only describe as my “dream job” for over a year. 

To other people they may sound like very basic and simple life dreams, but as someone who was never a “functional bulimic” I can tell you right now, they were two things I never thought would happen for me.  

Ready to start chasing your own dreams but don’t know where to start?

Enter the blog of author, entrepreneur, and public speaker Tim Ferriss and this inspirational blog post *6 Steps to Crossing Anything Off Your Bucket List.” This really is a must read if you feel ready to go after your dreams but are in need of a little guidance, it’s certainly spurred me on to go and write a brand new list of life-goals!


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NenaJL's picture
When you have Bulimia you

When you have Bulimia you think that you are the only girl with this problem in your town, in your Country and that all the negative feelings only happen to you.. Thank you for sharing this , it's what happened to me, my days were dark , never saw any goal possible to reach and actually never really wanted anything more that being skinny , it was my only goal to be thin enough , it was a hard work it took 10 of my years.
Now I feel kinda lost still don't know what I really want to do in my life, besides a good mommy and a future wife, but I know I want to study and do something that involve helping people, I know I need to recover and be healthy...
I guess after I feel better about myself time will lead me where I need to be to help other with whatever my job will be and have the family I always wanted..
Thank you for showing me that I wasn't the only one that lost the real goals and the most important for showing me that we can get our life back ... :)

Catherine Liberty
Catherine Liberty's picture
Hi Nena, Thank you so much

Hi Nena,

Thank you so much for your message, it's lovely to hear that you'd like to study and do something that involves helping people in the future, even if you don't quite know what that is just get, it sounds like a brilliant direction to be headed in.

I completely agree, once you start to feel better about yourself, and once you begin reconnecting with your true self, without bulimia there to bring you down you're going to have a much better idea of the dreams you would like to achieve, I know that's how things happened for me!

Take care,
Catherine x

ChangingSpiritBW's picture
I appreciate this message. I

I appreciate this message. I was a "functional" drug addict and I guess a "funtional" bulimic. Not long ago I made a good friend at a workshop, she is a nurse, does a lot of trauma work, brilliant and insightul. She is aware of my history and current status. Over coffee she paused a moment, looked at me and asked, "Did you ever wonder where you might be if you were able to reach your full potential without the addiction?" It was an honest question and a good point. I thought about it and told her that since I'm not dead yet I guess I"ll find out. I know that my life is going to be so much better when I am able to stop the bulimia and your message gives me hope that my "potential" is yet to be tapped. I love the song you sing, keep singing. Love you, Bryan

Bryan Wagner

Annice's picture
I am still young but I've

I am still young but I've felt that I missed so much opportunities in my past and even during school days because of bulimia. This is really inspiring to me, I don't want to hold myself back anymore. I have a lot of goals personally and for my career and as a creative individual.

Don't count the days. Make the days count!


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