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Our team regularly posts blogs on all aspects of bulimia, sharing our particular insights and inspiring recovery.

If someone confides in you that they have an eating disorder, it may be difficult to know what to say. Even those with the best intentions may accidentally say something triggering or painful.

From the sufferer’s standpoint, there’s nothing worse than telling someone and receiving a poor reaction. Just the act of sharing that huge secret is courageous and terrifying.

They are extremely vulnerable after sharing this information and the last thing they need is to feel insulted or misunderstood. If you want to be helpful, start by trying to understand a few basics facts about eating disorders:

1. It is not the sufferers fault.

Many people struggle with eating disorders for various reasons. Most start with an innocent diet and exercise routine that became too extreme. Many people who suffer with bulimia are afraid of gaining weight and being judged for their appearance. I’m sure everyone can relate to those fears, as well as the desire to be accepted and loved. Realize that nobody would choose to have an eating disorder and they never intended for things to get out of control.

2. You can’t fix them.

No matter how hard you try, if that person just isn’t ready to recover, there’s nothing you can do to force it. If it was easy to ‘just stop’, they would.  Recovery is a process that takes some time, so be patient.

Picture of a girl with bulimia who is stressed during christmas

Social gatherings of all types can create stress and anxiety, especially for someone with an eating disorder. Something that should be a fun occasion can quickly turn into a nightmare when triggers are present and there is no plan of action. Year-round, bulimia sufferers attend events where they feel uncomfortable due to food anxiety and body-image issues.

My name is Kirsty and I’ve struggled with bulimia off and on for about 11 years.

I look at that statement and it makes me sad that I can’t say I am fully recovered yet, but I also know how far I have come and when I consider how dominating it used to be in my life, I am truly thankful at my position now.

I am the textbook bulimic.

I started dancing at a young age and was always prancing around in a leotard and subconsciously knew I was expected to look a certain way and maintain a certain shape.

I got high grades at school, I moved to different countries when I was younger which meant I learned quickly how to please people and make friends, and I became a bit of a perfectionist in everything I did.

The unhealthy relationship with food developed much earlier than the binging and purging. I remember watching a drama on eating disorders at school and deciding that I would go down the bulimia route if I ever gained weight. I loved food a lot and I couldn’t imagine the anorexic “option”.

When I was 16 my family moved from the USA back to Scotland, and I went from dancing 5 times a week to just once. My lifestyle changed. I discovered alcohol, and I naturally starting gaining some weight. I don’t remember exactly when it started, but I began experimenting with laxatives, starving myself all day, and when that got too difficult, I started to throw up my food.

Dangers of diets

In today’s society, it seems like everywhere you look there’s another fad diet. Some seem downright ridiculous, while others seem like they may be more legit. At some point, most of us have been on a diet before.

In fact, some 45 million Americans go on a diet each year, spending a staggering $33 billion on weight loss products. 2 out of 5 Americans right now are currently dieting, and diet pills are being taken around the world. In Brazil, Russia and Mexico, diet pill sales have increased with 20-30% of people reportedly taking them.

In China, 37% of people report having taken weight loss pills. These can be extremely dangerous and even deadly, especially because the manufacturers are not regulated. 

So next time you think about trying a new weigh loss fad, buying diet pills or restricting your food intake, take a look at these 6 things I wish I had known about dieting before I ever went on a diet:

1. Diets cause weight gain.

Numerous peer-reviewed publications have shown that food restriction not only causes increased amounts of stress hormones, but is actually directly related to weight gain! Sure, the participants in these studies may have lost pounds initially, but in the long-run they consistently gained up to 20% more than they had lost.

Happiness in recovery

It's no secret that when you have fully recovered from bulimia you are going to find yourself feeling happier, healthier and more alive than ever before - and let me tell you, life after bulimia is going to exceed ALL of your expectations!

But what about your feelings right now in this moment?

Do you wish you were happier in recovery?

If like many people in recovery, you've found yourself trapped in a cycle of unhappiness, simply waiting for that "light at the end of the tunnel" then I need you to know one thing...

You do NOT need to wait for happiness to come to you.

Of course no one is completely happy 100% of the time, and that's okay, we are only human after all.

But by working on increasing your general happiness you're going to:

  • Increase your motivation levels and find new energy to focus on your recovery.
  • Become more resilient to stress meaning you're better equipped to deal with the pressures of recovery. 
  • Bounce back from relapses and "bad days" faster.
  • Be more likely to stick with recovery long-term.

Today I'm going to share some strategies that will enable you to experience this for yourself.






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