Exercise - what is normal?

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LoloT's picture
Exercise - what is normal?

Does anyone struggle with knowing what amount of exercise is normal? I normally binge and purge through throwing up (although I have been free for just over a week now). I feel as if I have to exercise every single day for at least 40 minutes but I really don't enjoy it and so I face a huge battle within myself everyday to force myself to exercise. If I don't actually go and exercise, I spend all day in my flat which isn't good either. I hate to feel untoned and flabby but find it hard to force myself to go. This creates such conflict inside me and wastes so much time. Last week I decided to be easier on myself and not to force myself to go but this causes me to panic, especially when I see the scales going up and my clothes getting tighter. But I can't face the thought that I have to exercise everyday for the rest of my life. Does anyone feel the same way and how do they cope with this?

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I have felt exactly like you.

I have felt exactly like you. I forced myself to exercise for years and often hated it. I remember crying on time while doing pilates. Its strange cos I really do love being active, but when it was a RULE that I had to exercise for X minutes X times per week, I hated it and felt anxious and miserable. I think that what you need to do is accept that you are trying to use exercise to prevent any weight gain during recovery. The thing is, you can't recover if you are trying to lose or control your weight. You have to let it go. I know its scary but I promise nothing crazy will happen. You might put on a little bit of weight at first, but try to remember that its temporary or necessary (as in, if you are underweight you might need to gain some weight, and if you put on un-needed weight, it will eventually drop off as you become an intuitive eater). Try and be patient hun. Recovery is worth putting on a little weight now, because when you reach your set point (Im not sure if I've reached mine yet), I think you will feel amazing and it will be EASY! No more forcing yourself to do anything.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, when you stop trying to lose weight or prevent temporary/necessary recovery weight gain, you can exercise again and this time do something you enjoy. I am just starting to think about exercise again - but I am going to do yoga, or go for a nice walk or a swim. And if my body tells me it wants to do a more full-on form of exercise, I will do that. But in moderation, and no more rules. If I feel like I am forcing myself to do a certain workout, I will do something much more gentle instead or nothing at all.

I hope I helped a bit, I feel like that was a bit rambly! Goodluck! xxx

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LoloT's picture
Hey, yes that does help! It

Hey, yes that does help! It is just nice to know that someone is going through or has been through something similar. I have decided that I don't feel like exercising today, so I won't go! And I won't go unless I feel I really want to. I think you are right - if I feel a pressure to exercise and the drive comes from a desire to control my weight, then that is not healthy and I shouldn't exercise. I wonder if just as there is intuitive eating, there is intuitive exercise?!! Hopefully my body will decide it wants to be active once I am more stable! THank you! xxx

somethingblooming's picture
Awesome choice not to

Awesome choice not to exercise because you didn't feel like it! :) I did that it and it took me a little while to feel like I wanted to exercise, but I did eventually and I did it for like 20-30 minutes and there was no stress or anxiety! I hope you had a good day!!

And yeah there is definitely intuitive exercise! I am reading the book 'Intuitive Eating' and I saw there is a chapter on intuitive exercise!! Wooh!!! xx

"I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self respect. And it's these things I'd believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn't all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything.”

Angel333's picture
I guess it depends on the

I guess it depends on the individual.
If you partake in a sport or activity such as dancing/football/long distance runner etc then you need to have proper days training, times and rest. But if you exercise just for the sake of being healthy and staying active then the experts recommend 30 mins daily or an hour 3-4 times a week. And even walking is fine!
I am a lover of gym classes and some of these are only 45 mins long and others are an hour. I exercise average 5 times a week...sometimes 6 but I am working on cutting down to 4 days a week as I realise a lot of the time im dragging myself to the gym because I HAVE to go rather than because I WANT to go.
I find I rarely have time to unwind and relax because my life has become, work all gym, gym in evenings and then housework, prep food etc for next day then bed. That is my life! So that's why I feel I need a few days a week so not have my life planned out to the key and to actually have a free evening or 2 where I can decide if I want to read, watch a movie, meet with a friend. A bit of me time.
Its so easy how an exercise addiction can start and you don't even realise it until times when your not well or really dragging yourself through it just for peace of mind. Why do we constantly put ourselves through it?!
Chill and enjoy live and try not to be so anxious and uptight about everything all the time. That line there is as much for me as everyone else out there :)
Take care x

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freakyblonde88's picture
We should move everyday. But

We should move everyday. But they it's walking, biking at a leisurely pace. Enjoying a forest, etc
However when it comes to the gym, even hard core muscle builders exercise one day and rest the muscles the next. Fir me a huge party of recovering was being ok with choosing not to go to the gym.
Studies have shown the the anxiety we cause ourselves canactually cause us to gain wait. So not worth it. Best thing would be to find a sport, dancing, our class of some sort today you like, they usually have set times a week,and it automatically becomes structured.

I also made a rule in recovery to never, ever go to the gym for more than 1 hour at a time. From the step in to the step out.

Good luck. And remember healthy living is balanced living

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