Friendships

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Wishesupon
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Friendships

Hello all, the topic Friendships has been brought up quite some times on the forum. I wanted to update the talk and thoughts on that.
I am now in my starting 30's, - and I feel like the friendships I had during my teen years, and 20's something years are starting to fade, and it's really breaking my heart.
Last year I worked a year abroad in Asia, and made great friendships there. My bulimia was really really severe ( can you imagine the toilets there?! anyways) but because I met girls who were also working abroad, we had a bond. Truth is, they did not know about my ED - still I felt accepted by them, and also felt they saw me positively. Now being back in my home country -the friendships back here are still there, but I feel like with some I am growing apart - partly it has to do with me complaining about being back in Amsterdam - and I do regret that I was negative about it. But I am now okay with being back. It's hard to maintain the friendships back in Asia - as they also go on with their lives and I with mine. Should I make clear that I am happy with friends here? How ? Or is that too desperate? I feel so clingy.

I am working hard on my recovery, and I have no friend to share with! :((( It's so lonely, and I feel so sad - and I know I can do something about it, but it's also so hard during recovery to expose yourself.

Do others experience this as well? How to?

Hugs,

Wishes

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Wishesupon
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Anyone feel like sharing

Anyone feel like sharing thoughts?

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LucyBelieves
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Hi Wishes! I felt the same

Hi Wishes!
I felt the same way when I came back to Australia after spending eight years abroad. Keep putting yourself out there, joining meetup groups and joining groups, and you will meet new people! Lots of Australians go travel abroad and then return home! So you might need to send out a message to the universe 'I am so happy and grateful that I have attracted a wonderful new group of friends into my life'. Keep affirming it and writing lists of the positive aspects in friends that you want, and keep putting yourself out there!

Also, you can add me as your friend!! I look forward to making contact with you!

Much love
Lucy

Lucy
There is nothing that we cannot be or do or have :)

Wishesupon
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Hi Lucy, I love love love

Hi Lucy,

I love love love love your response! I am a believer of the universe and work with it as well - ironic huh that I haven't really work with your suggest affirmation -- ;) I will definitely put your tip to use.

And as a matter of fact - I have added you as friend, and look forward to exchange recovery goodness with you!

Hugs,

Jenny

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jr36.26ez
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Hi Wishesupon, have you taken

Hi Wishesupon,
have you taken any steps to communicate your condition with the loved ones in your life? I have been contemplating doing so because I have relapsed lately and I'm tired of struggling alone, although I am scared to do so because my family is rather judgmental. Do you have any suggestions? I am not sure I am ready to tell them but I have been considering confiding in some of my close friends.

Juli

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