How to lose weight in recovery?

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Amyxo's picture
How to lose weight in recovery?

I have tried very hard to recover but the only thing in my way is my weight gain. Im too scared to weigh myself but i can feel the fat on my body increasing. I feel disgusting and so embarrassed and i don't want to go back to bingeing and purging to lose the weight. How can i get back to the weight i was before recovery? I don't want any advice on how to accept the weight gain as i cant, i just need to lose it, healthily if possible. Any ideas would be appreciated!

Angel333's picture
If you stick to the required

If you stick to the required amount of calories a day required and exercise in moderation then the weight should take care of itself.
Just be very careful as you don't want to end up obsessed and preoccupied with dieting all the time and end up down the same road spiralling you back into a world of relapse. Stop the dieting mentality and adopt a healthy eating approach and be moderate with exercise. Be healthy. Wishing you all the best

'We are each of us angels with only one wing, so we can only fly by embracing each other'

freakyblonde88's picture
Here's the harsh truth. If

Here's the harsh truth.

If you cannot accept the weight even though tears and anger, then you don't yet see the big picture and grasped what a huge, life-changing thing that recovery is.

It's a change of life, we cannot hold on to anything of the past. It doesn't mean you have to accept it forever necessarily, since recovery does not always equal gaining weight/getting "fat".

A whole life in exchange for a couple pounds..? Doesn't that seem like a fair deal? Have you tried seeing someone through recovery to help you to see the reality. Because I know that seeing the forest is almost impossible cause we're nose to nose with the trees.

There's more to recovery then weight, and I hope you find it.

Life is too short to not be happy

Sasha's picture
Hey there. Just a few

Hey there. Just a few questions. Were you underweight before recovery? If so, you may have to accept yourself at a healthier weight. If you are eating regular, healthy, appropriate amounts of will be a healthy weight. Even if you binge occasionally, I promise, you will not be fat. Believe me I felt the exact same way. Hang in there with recovery, it feels like climbing a never ending mountain sometimes, but it is so worth it. I am just starting my recovery(again) after almost 15 years of bulimia. I honestly just had to surrender and face my biggest fear (getting fat). And you know what? I'm beginning to believe that recovery is truly possible. I just wrote a blog about my fear of getting fat in recovery. Check it out if you like, it may helpful.

Luni's picture
Hi there ... I am so with

Hi there ...

I am so with you in this post. CanĀ“t really give you any advice since I feel exactly the same ... thruth is, I want to recover so baldy but cannot accept the fact that I have gained weight and feel disgusting ... During my bulimic years I was never underweight, always normal.. once I decided to recover I had gained weight due to some health issues and now that I have gained evern more weigh since recovery I am currently overweight (according to BMI calculators); I excersise a lot and track every single calorie I eat ... it is so hard to look at the mirror , I used to think I was fat and now.. I would give anything to be like I was ... I feel the same as you do, is there a way we can recover and also keep our previous weight?? Why does it have to be bulimic ir fat?????

According to the Bulimia Help Method, it takes around 6 to 8 months to our bodies to adapt to the concept of receiving nourshment every 3 hours, after that, the weigh will supposibly drop off and set at a healthy range .... In my case, I have hypothyroids and I am so scared that this entire weight gain will never drop off... My face is even fatter now than when I had my bulimic cheeks ... it is so hard and depressing ...


mullerj27's picture
Hey guys-- I'm in the same

Hey guys-- I'm in the same boat here. Get this: I'm three weeks into recovery, and I have gained at least 15-20 pounds. None of my old clothing fits anymore, and I have to borrow the baggiest clothes I can find. I feel so encumbered by the rolls and my thighs rubbing together, and I really just want to wear my old clothing again! I wasn't underweight ever, just normal, and now I'm overweight. I want to cry every day because I can't even move the same way I used to....

ElsieSoproni's picture
I never felt okay with the

I never felt okay with the weight (still have some of it), but I can attest to the truth of what everyone says. As much as it bothered me, I think I was more okay with my body with the recovery weight than I was before it came and I was binging and purging regularly, just because I was in a healthier mental space. I don't think you have to be okay with being that way forever. You don't even have to like it at all. But you do need to learn to love your body. Do you see the difference? The day I could look at my bloated, chubby stomach and feel love toward my body for its efforts to heal me and my efforts to treat it better was a big deal for me. I don't always feel that way. Some days I look in the mirror and would give anything to have my old body back. But the new body that I will have will be so much better than my old one. When I thought I couldn't bear one more minute with the recovery-weight body I had, I gave myself a deadline. I told myself that I would try the program until my birthday (April, and this was November) and if it wasn't working then I gave myself free license to deal with the problem however I felt I needed to. It almost certainly wouldn't have been healthily. But you know what? My birthday is in three weeks and the program IS working. No I'm not where I want to be, but I am a million years past where I was. So my advice to you is 1) don't purge, 2) don't binge, 3) moderate exercise, 4) don't hate yourself. If you are doing all those things, the weight will come off. That's what we're all striving for and that's the whole purpose of the program. So stick with it, do your best, and know that this too shall pass. The best way to moderate your weight now is probably to do some weights regularly intermixed with some moderate cardio, and structured eating. If you can do that you will lose the weight. Best of luck! <3

ElsieSoproni's picture
Okay, let me rephrase some of

Okay, let me rephrase some of that. I don't think it's so much about being okay with the weight gain (unless you're underweight) as it is learning not to stress about it because anxiety is one of the biggest triggers we have. The only way to GET RID of the weight is therefore to stop stressing about it and learn to live healthily. Does that make sense? For me I had about two months at my highest during which I wore a lot of (cute) loose blouses because I HATED the way my clothes (didn't) fit. We took family photos during this phase and I was mortified. But one day I was getting ready for dance and I realized... my skirt fit (!!!). I'm still slightly above my binge/purge weight, but over time it slowly, slowly works itself out. I believe that's the hardest stage of recovery to get through. Harder than the bloating even, because you can comfort yourself with the fact that it's not actually fat on your body. But we all need to learn that weight is always in flux and is changeable. You weight more now, but you can weigh less later without hurting yourself. The only way to healthily lose weight at this stage is to continue with the recovery process. Structured eating should help with eating the proper amount. You'll be okay, I promise. 12 months, 18 months, five years from now it won't matter how much you weighed today, if you're healthy and happy with your body then. The only way to get that is by moving forward and taking the hardest leap of faith of your life. But I promise it can be done and it's worth it.

Delilia's picture
It's my 13th month of

It's my 13th month of recovery.

I gained some weight, then I lost a bit of it, then I dieted and gained more weight...

I work in fashion and my weight isn't a good thing for my "image". I'm about 24 bmi which is "normal" for my age - but yeah, spring is coming and I'm thinking how to hide in my clothes.

BUT - yes, my life is 10 times more interesting and active now than when I was bulimic and thin.

I hope I will lose this weight... but I won't diet any more.

Yeah... I would say - be PATIENT.


lindsay6's picture
I was where you are. I was

I was where you are. I was there for years. The longer you stick with bulimia the smarter your body will get at holding onto calories. The more you have this ugly ED the more ineffective it becomes. I was bulimic for 41 years because I thought I needed it. I loved to eat and had a huge appetite and I "knew" if I didn't purge I would be morbidly obese. Well when I came here bulimia just wasn't working so well. I was at the high end of my happy weight and couldn't lose it. So I decided to give it 18 months and see what happened. I did gain weight and it was really tough but not as much as I would have thought and certainly didn't become morbidly obese. The months of dealing with the weight gain were tough. Hey this is how each and every one of us got here in the first place because we care more about our weight than anything else. It becomes a deeply ingrained habit and a difficult one to break. If you read the ebook it talks about how difficult this is I think around the 4th month because we have gained a fair bit by then. It helped me knowing I was experiencing what everyone does and it is normal. Things will turn around. The excess weight comes off. The reason weight gain happens in recovery you are eating every three hours appropriately and then you have some mini binges or binges and if you don't purge well do the math weight gain happens. The thing is though as recovery goes on you no longer want to binge. You have a normal appetite and even your trigger foods no longer have that power over you. So you stop binging and your calorie intake goes down naturally. If you follow SE properly you may not be tiny but guaranteed you won't be huge either. It is tough figuring it out but so worth it. If you can stick to this and work through it you will be so grateful. I have lost all the weight I gained in recovery and I can eat anything I want. I never thought this would be possible for me. You are in the most difficult time of recovery just keep pushing through and you will get there.

When you are going through hell, keep going.

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