How to stop others commenting on your food?

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Poppet
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How to stop others commenting on your food?

Hi everyone
I just need to get it out, I am currently on holidays with a group of friends overseas. One of them is great fun but has also had an ED, and in my opinion is still restricting massively. Eg skips breakfast or dinner, avoids deserts etc. And exercises a lot. I found myself caught in a situation where they commented on the fact that I was still hungry. I hadn't had a huge dinner at all. Salad and bread. I felt terribly guilty. Absolutely terribly guilty. We get along really well and they have no idea that they upset me. I don't want to make a big deal out of it. But at the same time I need to expess my feelings. Especially because right now I just want to binge. How can I tell them not to make any comments?
Thanks in advance!
xxx.

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Peyton
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Poppet.... I so feel your

Poppet.... I so feel your pain! Isn't it awful to have others commenting on your food. Your response really depends on how well you know the other friends. If you are really close, I would open up and just be honest and tell them you are struggling with an eating disorder and doing your very best to follow a structured eating plan and nourish your body properly. If you are not really close friends, I don't know what the right thing to do would be. I know what I would do.... I would buy some snacks and have them in a place where I could eat them in private. Nourish your body like you should and realize that a salad and a little bread is not a lot of food. Secretive eating is not ideal, but it is not fair to you to be singled out as the "BIG eater in the group." You could also buy some liquid calories -- bottles of juice or milk or protein shakes -- that might help you stay nourished and yet not cause any comments from your friends. I am pulling for you. Please let me know what happens.

Peyton

Poppet
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Hi Peyton! Thanks for your

Hi Peyton! Thanks for your support. Interestingly this person has started to eat more this week - they have an ED too - and my eating has gotten much simpler as a result. I get very easily triggered by people who restrict and fall into restriction or overating myself. Hard. Need to learn how to block negative influences out. xxx

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beachykeen
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I tend to be a smart ass and

I tend to be a smart ass and sort if fake it til I make it. I've had people make comments like "wow you're hungry" or "are you gonna eat all that?" I playfully respond with "Yup I sure am!" or " Totally hungry and I'm gonna enjoy every bite". Basically an over confident response assuming they are jealous. I find it tends to shut people up if actively don't give in to the questioning. I may not always believe my confidence but at least I'm putting it out there.

freakyblonde88
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Beachykeen: I completely

Beachykeen:

I completely agree with you. Since in most cases they are jealous. Why on earth would anyone comment on your hunger, it doesn't affect them at all. So eat what you like and be happy.

I just spent a week of my holiday with my sister in law and her bf, and both of us girls eat the things we like, cookies are yummy, chocolate is great and wine is good. but neither of us are overweight or crazy skinny, we are quite normal.

Point of the story, during our trip the boys mentioned once or twice how happy they are that we are comfortable to eat what we eat, and in our own skin, that they appreciate that and love us for doing what makes us happy and eating what we need to at the time.

you should do the same. and even if you eat more than someone else, you are eating for you, and for your recovery, everyone else can go suck it to be honest.

I know it bugs, it's like a poke in your side when someone comments, I hope and pray you find the strength to focus on your happiness above their retarded comments.

Life is too short to not be happy

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