Increasing calories...HELP

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survivor0315
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Increasing calories...HELP

Okay so I know we aren't supposed to mention calories but I am just talking in the general sense. As in I am working through the book and I am not sure I can increase my calories and the thought makes me feel ill. I feel like I am eating fine, I eat 3 meals, I eat some treats. I have to confess that maybe I am a little controlled in what I choose but do I really need to increase calories to get better? My body seems to be functioning fine as it is so it is hard for me to convince myself this is a good idea. Has anyone else struggled with this?

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FreckledPonyFlying
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Hi there, it was all very

Hi there, it was all very hard for me in the initial stages of the recovery (I'm almost 9 months purge free now). After practicing SE for a while the body starts sending the right signals for hunger and satiation again and it gets easier. My advice for you is to try to stop concentrating on the calories. Try thinking about food in other terms such as nutrition values or portion size. Use the guided eating tool, it is really great, even if used from time to time. But coming back to the core: you need to give your body what it needs. I know it hard, as we have this fear of calories encrypted in our minds, but you need to listen to what your body is telling you as often as you can. Observe your hunger levels as much as you can. Try to find patterns. Maybe everything is ok. But - if you are practicing SE and finding yourself hungry between the main meals or if the binge urges keep coming back - these are the warning signals which may mean that you are restricting (even unintentionally) and you should provide your body with more nutrients. You might need bigger meals or more snacks. Remember to balance your meals and the right proportions of carbs, protein and fats and keep yourself hydrated. It is also hugely important really is to trust the process, trust the method. If anybody told me a year ago that I would be writing this post I would not believe. But here I am. It was the battle. It still is a bit of a struggle sometimes. But life is so much better now as the recovery spreads to all dimensions of it, it is just hard to describe. It's worth the risk of getting weight (I guess this is your biggest fear when you say that increasing the number of calories makes you sick), as getting weight is only so scary during the recovery. It is scary and so very difficult, but it really looses this meaning when you compare it with all the benefits later. And the body usually goes to what is it natural best weigh anyway and it will feel fine and comfortable. Good luck and let me know it you have any questions xx

Freckled Pony Flying

survivor0315
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Thanks for that, it did help.

Thanks for that, it did help. I am actually getting there the audio tool is really helping me I think. I am actually finding by listening to my body I actually end up eating less junk foods which is good. And weirdly I haven't been counting lately which is strange as I normally do, even eating foods that scared me before is happening which is great. When I used to eat meals I would put all I wanted on a plate and take it with me, then eat it all regardless of my body. Now I focus on one item at a time and if I still feel hungry I will get something else. So you were right, I have taken calories out of it and am just focusing on eating when I am hungry and stopping when I am full. i have no idea if my body is getting enough in terms of numbers but I am listening to it more!

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FreckledPonyFlying
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It is so good hear that!

It is so good hear that! You're doing great taking as much as possible of the audio tool! Good point about the junk foods - yep, once we start listening to our bodies it does turn out that they are not so interested in it. The craving comes sometimes though. I've been working on not making a big deal of it. For me, it includes not running away of the craving. If I feel like I want some junk food I'd usually have it, but the goal is to eat it mindfully. That helps to get to the level of satiation without overeating or engaging in a binge, as it happens with all the other consciously consumed meals. That's why the audio is so important. It does teach mindfulness. I'm so glad it helps you in so many different ways. It's beautiful to realize that food doesn't have to be an enemy. Don't worry about the numbers. I don't think one needs them when listening to the body, which you're doing! :) Take care xx

Freckled Pony Flying

freakyblonde88
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Let go. That is the single

Let go.

That is the single best thing I did to recover, it's not easy, but it's a "MUST DO" for recovery,

Let go of:
- calorie counting
- food control
- measurement
- the scale (bathroom and kitchen)
- your comfort zone,

Recovery isn't pretty or comfortable. It's tough, full of tears and grossness and feeling like crap, but it's a Phoenix thing (cheesy I know) But once you go through all the icky stuff and learn to know yourself and what you really need and what is right and healthy for you, then you will come out of the muck and mire stronger and more beautiful for it.

So... Let it all go ;-)

Life is too short to not be happy

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