New girl - is there any hope for me?

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vbone
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New girl - is there any hope for me?

Hi, this is my first post and I guess I'm looking for someone out there to give me some hope. i've been bulimic for about four years and I'm do desperate to stop. I've tried and failed so many times that I think I've lost all faith in myself. Can anyone please reassure me that it can be beaten? I'd be so grateful - this thing has just broken my heart and ruined my life.
Thank you
xx

kelican
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I'm new too!! i've been

I'm new too!! i've been bulimic for about 2 years and am desperately trying to stop. We can't do this alone because our thoughts get the best of us. Its really hard to stay positive sometimes but I'm trying. Because i've relapsed so many times, I hate myself more and more and I always think that all hope is gone. I'm learning to not get depressed over it. My hope is only growing :)

caz1987
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hey iv had it for years but

hey iv had it for years but last 2 years got out of control and i decided to get professional help and i have spoken to close friends and people have been more understanding than i thought although some don't understand its so much easier to talk to people that been through it, and i think this website is great as we all in the same kinda boat. but there is help out there. dont give up on yourself girl, you will get better if u want to and i know you do... cos i do ;)

mint
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It'll help, I promise!

I tell ya', this site gave me insight I've NEVER had on binging and bulimia. Reading all the reasons on how I got to this point was the biggest smack in the face; who knew years of being health/nutrition/fitness conscious can lead to food obsession and disorders and binging?! Whatever your reasons, Really go through this site -- it helped to learn to stop putting food in good/bad categories, to stop making mental lists of foods that are off-limits, because it eliminates the guilt when you eat them - and let's face it.. that guilt is precisely what makes us keep going. 'I blew it, why stop now?' Use the journal, use the menu planning. It really seems to lesson worrying over eating because I'm not stressing over what and when I'll eat, plus I remind myself I can have anything I want. It's amazing to let go of these 'rules' of eating we don't realize we have, and the feeling of relief that hits almost immediately. It may be small at first, but you'll notice it. Bottom line? YES, there is DEFINITELY hope. Sometimes the tiniest sentence, the smallest idea, is what catapults your recovery. Do Not lose faith, and stop beating yourself up and hating yourself for Any of your behavior. Nothing you do is 'bad'.. you're you, and totally wonderful. Hugs sista!!!

bvary1991
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There is HOPE

I'm sure you know by now that you are not alone. I figured there was no help for me, but this site has been a Godsend. The littlest things have been helpful. There are good days and bad days for me. Read the RECOVERY TIPS. Not everyone may apply to you, but they help. Try, try, try, keep fighting. To me the first step is learning to accept yourself. You're not bad, you're good. It's not easy, but you can do this. Cry out to us here. We all want to help one another. You Are Not Alone.

Julie

barreddoors9193
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hell yeah there is hope! look

hell yeah there is hope!
look at all the amazing stories around you!
lets get rid of this and get this party started the right way!!

=]

m_e_
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i'm new too

hey i'm new too. is there anyone out there who's "cured" of bulimia eventually? or is it like in AA how people are always considered to be recovering? i'm scared that will always be something going that can creep up on me when i least expect it.

“A person, who no matter how desperate the situation, gives others hope, is a true leader.”
“With love and patience, nothing is impossible.” -Daisaku Ikeda

kelican
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reeesponse

you can't think of it like that. I think thats where our mentality is kinda all screwed up. We have to see that everything is fixable. One mistake will not ruin our lives. the purpose of Life is to learn about yourself and to know your body and spirit and give it what it needs, nurture it.
Thinking of the future would screw my thinking a lot. If you accidently have one relapse, its okay. We aren't perfect. We just need to learn from it. :)

amanda09
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hi there :) i have been fully

hi there :) i have been fully recovered for two years now and i know plenty of others who have gone the full journey and come out the other side! i think it's really important to remember it took a long time to get to this place, and to really truly beat an eating disorder you've got to dig deep to the core of the issues which have gotten you here. relapse is a normal and natural part of recovery. that was the hardest thing for me when i started recovery was feeling like it was one step forward, two back. i felt like i went into a worse place than when i started, but eventually you come to realise that every relapse is an opportunity for growth and insight. and the more you accept them and learn what is on offer, they gradually occur less and less. recovery is not easy, but it is the most rewarding experience that can take you to such beautiful places...if you're willing to do the work! bulimia is not just about self control or willpower - eating disorders are a complex manifestation of internal issues which may go way back into your past. it takes a lot of effort to untangle that mess, but recovery is always possible - not always easy but definitely worthwhile ;)

"Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my god do you learn"

amanda09
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kelican you are so right.

kelican you are so right. it's important to allow ourselves to make mistakes - they are our greatest teachers! in fact you'd never learn without them. if you can pull just one lesson out of a 'mistake' - eg. when you relapse, ask yourself what triggers played a part here..track the patterns and allow this new knowledge to guide you to making better decisions in the future. next time you face a similar situation you can recognise it is a potential trigger and choose less destructive ways to deal with these uncomfortable feelings/emotions.

"Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my god do you learn"

vbone
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Thank you

Hi all, I've been away for a while, so sorry not to reply sooner. I wanted to say a really big thank you for all your comments. I DO believe I can do it. And I'm going to. Like everyone says, you might fail along the way from time to time, but you have to try and one day you'll get there.
xx

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