Old friends Old habits

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valarielouise's picture
Old friends Old habits

I have some old friends coming to visit from overseas. While they are not staying with me they will want to catch up. Unfortunately I use to drink a lot when I was with them as this is the idea of a catch up. I am talking an all night drinking session. I don't want to drink like that anymore as I will restrict my food intake to account for the extra calories and then binge and purge the next day. I don't know how to explain to them I don't want to drink because I am bulimic and it's inhibiting my recovery, but I also don't want them to think I am not fun anymore and lose my friends. Does anyone have any suggestions / thoughts?

Mouli's picture
You could lie and say you

You could lie and say you have a really doozer of a headache and the thought of alcohol makes you want to be sick. Or you can just say that you're not drinking so much these days. If you fancy a glass or two then fine. Sit on them and have them slowly. I have never been a big drinker and when I used to go out thought I 'should' Join in to have a good time. I've learnt that I don't need alcohol to have a good time. I can still be fun and silly and have a laugh without it. I hate the way it makes me feel and that is a personal thing for me. People will always say and push me but I just say I don't really drink that much. Soon enough they'll get used to the new you.
I don't see why you have to tell them you're in recovery,unless you want to. And If they don't want to be your friend anymore cos you don't drink then perhaps they're better friends not to have. I don't judge my friends for drinking more than I do. Good luck with it.

Walker's picture
i had the exact same

i had the exact same situation at the beginning of recovery, i told my friend i was on antibiotics cause i had been having a terrible throat infection, well he suspected i was pregnant but after a bit he didnt insist and we laughed a lot and i just never let my glass be empty, of soda or tonic water!


valarielouise's picture
Thanks guys, I like the idea

Thanks guys, I like the idea of just drinking slowly and alternating drinks. Perhaps I will suggest dinner and drinks to take the pressure of drinking. Then I can focus half my attention on eating slowly and consciously and half my attention on drinking slowly and consciously!

EndlessHope's picture
Ive had this problem!!! HAve

Ive had this problem!!! HAve a glass in your hand.... sip really slowly and alternate with non alcoholic bevs. At the end of the day when they go... who will be picking up the pieces? You, its your recovery!!! You can do this :D Im cheering you on ;) Xxxx

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