Perfectionism

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DOkkamjong
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Perfectionism

Hey guys,

Does anyone out there think his eating disorders is related to his perfectionist behaviours. I feel like my disorder has a strong relationship with those behaviours. I was going to psychiatrist but not anymore. He had told that I am a perfectionalist, at that time I was purging everyday, so that doesnt seem like a big issue. All I want is to reduce my attacks. Now it decreased in a way. These days I am so messed up, everything I do doesnt seem to be okay. I dont know, I admit there is something behind of that disorder, I want this to end but I use binging/purging as a self defense (actually from myself- from my unusual, unstopable thinkings and behaviours) When I feel too tired from my ''trying to be better in every way'' behaviours, I lock everything up. Like in all or nothing prenciple. I stop doing everything. And I binge to feel relax for some way.. Food became a relaxation mean. Ahhh... I just hope someone to help me defining those thoughts...

HopefulGirl
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I think eating disorders have

I think eating disorders have a lot to do with perfectionism, an awful lot. Even the BHM says someting about it.
All or nothing thoughts, seld infliction and punishment whe we do things wrong, just not good for recovery.
We need to finally come to terms with the fact we have this disorder and we can fail and relapse sometimes.
The key to me is to never lose sight of the ultimate goal of being healthy again, getting to eat normally again.
Food truly becomes an emotional crutch after being bulimic for such a long time, so other ways to cope with stress and anxiety must be found, no matter what.
Thing is... it can be frustrating... until we can tame this angry furious dog our hunger is, we need to accept we have little slips, or big ones, just need to keep focused...

HopefulGirl

DOkkamjong
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You are absolutely right, we

You are absolutely right, we need find other ways to cope with emotions. Yesterday I think about it a lot, I will try to relax in every way. Thank you for writing, it means a lot. I have been here for 1 year and I still couldnt manage to ''stop'' all the attacks, at least once a week it happens. Well there is something behind it, I will discover and wont afraid of it. Rather than fearing I must accept and say to myself that everything will be alright. It will pass eventually. Not perfection, I want process :)) Changing habits wont be hard if I look at the bigger picture and keep going on.

Thank youu :)) I felt lost yesterday, now I found my road again.

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