Set Point Weight??

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FionaN
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Set Point Weight??

Hey Everyone!

I know they say that you'll gain a bit during recovery and that eventually you'll settle at your set point. But will the recovery weight gain REALLY go down?? Or will I probably just be stuck with the weight I've gained? ( Yes, I've gained quite a bit and it's really unsettling me at the moment) I wasn't underweight to start off with (or ever in my years with bulimia) and I've always been in the healthy weight range, and yes, I still am with the weight gain.. but..it's still a lot.. and I simply don't understand why I have to gain so much if my weight was fine to start off with?!?!?!?
I'm very afraid that I'll just keep gaining.
Have any of you had some experience yet with the weight gain and set point stuff? I know a lot of us recovering are gaining weight, but has anybody had it then go down and just normalise?

Thank You! X

Ji Old profile
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I understand your frustration

I understand your frustration coz I am exactly like you. I was underweight because of bulimia but then I gained more weight than ever. And I was not eating too much. I think its harder for people who were underweight to recover coz they gain more and its hard to handle the b/p urges+ the weight gain. Anyway, things get better. It is the second time I recover and it happens the same thing. My natural set point is low, but I guess the stress which I caused to my body by b/p-ing cause me to gain more. But as soon as your body calms down and realise it will be fed on regular basis you will get back to normal. It is very tempting to restrict during this period, coz the ed logic is...I am fat, I will diet...but that is the worst you could do, the only thing you could do to help things go back to normal is keep eating regulary and don't stay hungry. This was one of the hardest things for me, coz I had to work against the logic I had for so many years. And maybe that's exacty the lesson we have to learn...that we were wrong, and staying hungry would not do anything good.

The ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do!

julianne026
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I keep wondering the same

I keep wondering the same thing! I am not underweight either and I never have been with bulimia. I am doing well with recovery but starting to get frusterated with how long it takes to reach a set point. Does it actually take the full five months before metabolism gets back to normal? Or do you start to see weight distribution before then? At least for me I feel really heavy right around the middle..

Tindar
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I'm only on day 5 of my

I'm only on day 5 of my recovery and I'm really panicked about the weight gain so far. It's just because bulimia made me gain a significant amount in the last year (after initially helping me to lose a significant amount), and on top of this here comes the recovery gain. Everything I own is too tight and it's really upsetting me. Then I read other people's posts and they are much further ahead in their recovery, like a few months, and they still feel they have not reached their set-point. This is extremely worrying to me because I'm only just managing not to panic/ break at this point and I haven't even gone a week yet. The other thing I'm worried about is how much I'm eating. I haven't signed up for the full Bulimia Help package because I can't afford it (bulimia having made me very poor) so I've tried to create my own SE plan from reading about what other people are doing - so more or less 3 "normal" meals a day and three snacks. I'm not really sure if I'm doing it right though. not really sure of anything any more. Would love to read more on this topic so I hope more people will share.

Wishing you all strength and happiness
Tina x

LL26
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Argh, my set point weight.

Argh, my set point weight. Unfortunately I don't have anything constructive to add, other than the fact that I am scared and unsure about this part too. I was within my weight range but at the low end - I looked and felt awful so I knew I was underweight for my body. I did expect to gain but it came on so fast - in one week I could no longer fit into my work clothes. They weren't just too tight - they were a full size or two too small - couldn't get them over my hips. I've only bought a few things b/c I'm broke (thank you bulimia!!) and I don't know if I'm going to stay at this weight or keep going up. It's scary because my initial reaction IS to restrict - after years of dieting that's what my brain thinks. But I know - from experience and from trusting the experience of others - that this is what will lead me back to the b/p cycle. So I'm still following SE and making sure I'm not letting myself get hungry - I'm eating pretty much every 2 to 2 1/2 hours. I definitely see restriction in response to the weight gain as my biggest obstacle at this point. Hopefully now that I KNOW this is what causes a person to binge (I honestly never knew that before although it seems so logical, how could I not???), this knowledge will help me to overcome this particular hurdle. It's crazy how often I find myself thinking "Oh, you're not that hungry, skip a snack or cut down on your meal." Why do I think it's okay to deny my body what it needs???? Crazy shit, this bulimia.

Anyway, if anyone has any experience for how long it took for their weight to settle at their set point, I'd love to know.

JoBlogs
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I want to join the club - I

I want to join the club - I am scared stupid of the gain - If i could only let this go...

Jo
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Saz82
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Its hard. Why are we not

Its hard. Why are we not content with being in the healthy weight range? We are NOT fat and probably most of us are not even overweight. We are healthy. But there is always something in that word 'healthy' isisn't there. Why would be rather be called 'slim or skinny' etc. Bi mind-set changes are needed for me... and I'm working on it! We can all learn to love ourselves, of that I'm sure. It amazes me how lovely everyone is on here - why does this only show over a computer, hiding behind the internet barrier? why do we hate ourselves and compare ourselves to other including our friends and family in real life?

If slaughterhouses had glass walls, everyone would be a vegetarian. ~Paul McCartney

eaw
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I agree with Saz above. I

I agree with Saz above. I see all the people on here and think they are just beautiful and it makes me sad that we are all concerned about our weight so much. But I am no exception. I was underweight for years and now I can still fit in my clothes, they just fit much much different and I panic at times. This "healthy" look scares me and I realize how much bulimia lies to us and messes with the way we view ourselves. I don't know about any of you, but just knowing others feel similar makes it that much easier to get through the days where I feel huge or that i've eaten so much. I look at my bloated healing stomach and know that there are others out there feeling that same way, others who I would view as so beautiful and that I can get through those moments. I find that i spiral into moments where I feel so huge that I would do anything to change what I saw in the mirror or the number on the scale, like a complete panic. And as I continue through the program those moments do not take hold for as long and I can find my way back to logic to get through them. I keep telling myself, " it will take at least a year for my body to readjust and I have to get through this moment in a healthy way so I am one step closer to health"
This program has changed my life and it is very hard. But for all of us out there who have made a choice to fight for ourselves, and fight through those thoughts telling us a few pounds = worthless, keep going!

Ji Old profile
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Eaw,I love your comment! :)

Eaw,I love your comment! :) We can all do this!

The ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do!

chelsi323
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for me, my weight did

for me, my weight did stabilize eventually, and now as long as i am not consistently over- or under-eating, i have maintained my weight within about a 5 lb range. so there is hope! as far as how long it took, when i first entered recovery, i would say that it took about 6 months or so because my eating was still very erratic. once i saw a nutritionist and got onto a proper meal plan, my weight steadied. and even through several relapses, once i have gotten my eating on track, my weight went right back to normal!

so, as hard as it is, try your best to relax and trust your structured eating plan :)
if you treat your body well, your weight will fall right into place! promise!

JoBlogs
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Thank you Chelsi, I am trying

Thank you Chelsi, I am trying to have faith xxx

Jo
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jazz
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I hope this helps a

I hope this helps a little-
Like most people I thought I would never be able to give up the purging without gaining and it has taken me quite alot of experimenting to believe the truth!
Ive been in recovery for nearly a year , and whilst i am stil susceptible to the odd relapse or terrible days here and there I consider I'm 100 times better than this time last year! So, yes i did gain in the initial months, i was very underwieght before so really i just became normal. Except I felt huge! It has taken me a while to accept this, which led to eating more, purging more etc etc . Well anyway , in the last few months i have been experimenting. Chocolate is my weekness , i mean to have a piece and then i eat a bar/pack/box!! Then........ i feel i have to purge. this kept happening and despite purging when this happened (thinking it would save the day), i slowly added more pounds.
With alot of willpower , I banned myself from purging, and whilst eating the same amount of food (a good balanced diet with about the right amount of calories etc ) and way more chocolate than I should , I have slowly started dropping the excess weight. I know you are not supposed to check the scales like I have been but i needed to know that i wouldn't keep gaining to enable me to give up the purging. Low and behold, i now dont feel the need to have copious amounts of chocolate and feel quite pleased with the fact it is possible to eat it, not feel guilty, not pile on pounds and not have to purge.
So i guess i am saying...... the purging really doesn't help control wieght/calories and the body does slowly work it out for itself. The less you obsess about it the easier it becomes............Recovery is slow but it is so rewarding.just keep believing.

Good luck to you all xxx

JoBlogs
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Thank you Jazz xxx

Thank you Jazz xxx

Jo
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chelsi323
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Jazz, I have also done the

Jazz, I have also done the same experimentation, and have gotten the same result! It took me a long time to give up the scale (and I still slip up sometimes and take a peak at the gym), but weighing for a while did show me that I can pretty much eat what I want (in moderation) and maintain at a normal, healthy weight that I am pleased with :)

jazz
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Thanks for that Chelsi. It is

Thanks for that Chelsi. It is good to hear further confirmation of that ! I have given up the scales now, (as of yesterday!) as I know it's counter productive to check them.Now that I have proved to myself I'm not continually gaining I'm letting go of the scale watching so I dont start obsessing over the numbers! I'de be interested to hear other peoples results on this topic.....
xx

Sadie345
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This is a great forum.

This is a great forum. Weight gain is really hard for me also. I gained a few months back when I was slowly sorting out my eating and it led to this massive relapse. This time around I am aware of it and I actually think a lot of it is just stomach bloat and water retension. I feel much larger than I actually am because my stomach sticks out like a pregnant woman from my poor body trying to digest the food I am finally allowing it too. This time around, I have asked my boyfriend to hide the scales and that has helped enourmously. I never want to weigh myself again!!!

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