So I need some advice, ladies.
I think my niece has an eating problem. She is 20 years old and is at a weight that I consider deadly. My sister told me on the phone yesterday what she weighs and I was stunned into silence. Yet..my sister just kind of laughs it off, like it's not a big deal.
Now my own daughter passed away ten years ago, so I don't feel I have any right to tell her how to be a mother, but it just makes me feel so odd. I don't know how to handle this. I am very very concerned for my niece, but I don't want to make my sister mad.
And as a recovering bulimic myself, it has a very odd effect on me. I don't know. My family has always had the same attitude about my struggle with bulimia, they just don't talk about it, never mention it, they just ignore it. And I feel the same thing might be happening to my niece.
What do I do? Do I just keep my mouth shut? It makes me feel mad, tho. I feel like yelling, why doesn't she see this is a problem? How can I just stand by and keep silent, knowing myself how it is to have this problem? It makes me feel like there is no hope for me as far as ever getting my family's support in my own recovery. If they can't see it in my niece, they'll never see it in me either.
I don't know my niece very well, our family lives very far apart and we don't see each other that much, so I don't feel I can just talk to my niece either.
I don't know, I'm so confused:(