Posts By: Ali Kerr

101 Tips for Bulimia Recovery

Bulimia Tips for Recovery

The better prepared you are for going into recovery the more likely you are to succeed. It’s important to have a clear direction, to understand exactly what to expect along the way, and most of all, to have a plan of action!

So if you’re ready to take those first steps towards your new bulimia-free life, but you’re unsure of where or how to get started, then this article is for you. Take some time to explore the wealth of helpful information below and you’ll be on your way to recovery in no time.


The importance of gratitude

Sometimes life can give you a wake up call.

A few weeks ago I got a call from our doctor telling me my six year son’s blood work had come back abnormal and they were taking this very serious.

In an instant my life was turned upside down. I was full of fear, dread and worry.

They had to do further tests and we had to anxiously wait with so much fear of the unknown.

What the doctors were suspecting was just terrifying, every parents worst nightmare, our hearts literally sunk.

Thankfully and luckily with special thanks to one amazing doctor (who fast tracked the whole process) we got news that our little boy was perfectly fine. It was just a scare.

I don’t think I will ever be able to put into words the relief Richard and I felt.

Tears were streaming down our faces when we heard the news, as would any parent. Our little boy is healthy and I’m eternally thankful and grateful for this.

Like I said, sometimes life can give you a wake up call.

Life is precious, our health is precious, as is our beautiful loved ones.

Ali and Nathan

So many of us focus on what we don’t have rather than focus on what we do have.

So I want to make this a week all about gratitude.

Living with an eating disorder is very, very challenging, so it is important that we take the time out to recharge our batteries and to perhaps remember some of the positives in our life.

To me help you do this, me and Richard have created a special Deep Trance Meditation to unlock the power of Gratitude.

And you can download it or listen to it for free here. This is a powerful 20 minute deep trance meditation audio that can help train your brain to notice life’s positives so you can see more and more of them. (the first time I listened back to it I cried!)

Universities around the world have scientifically proven gratitude as one of the surest ways to improve a persons sense of well being.

Study’s show that daily gratitude exercises resulted in higher reported levels of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, optimism and energy.

So go ahead and have a listen or download the audio here: Deep Trance Meditation for Gratitude

So the challenge is to listening to the audio once a day, every day this week.

And please post a comment below if you notice any changes.

You might notice you feel more blessed and full of gratitude that good weather allowed you to get out for an afternoon run, or that a stranger lent a helping hand allowing you to make it to the bus on time, or that your kids are healthy and well.

I will check back in with you at the end of the week and let you know the findings on this.

With love and gratitude,

Ali 🙂

Body image and recovery

I would like to share with you a very inspiring article that one of my coachees kindly wrote about her experiences with body image and recovery.

Despite suffering very bad bloating throughout her recovery, Lena managed to push this all to one side. She instead focused on her meal plans and was committed to making sure she was getting enough variety of foods and nutrition each day.

Recovery does take stepping outside your comfort zone a little, it’s so challenging I know, but it really does pay off when you then find yourself completely free from binging and purging and able to eat intuitively. It’s the best thing you will ever do.

Thank you Lena for sharing your great insight about how to make this challenging part of recovery possible.

Here is her story below:



I became bulimic at the age of thirteen. It all started when I went on a diet, trying to loose weight (looking back I have no idea why I thought I needed to). Additionally I was also hoping to get attention from others by literally “disappearing”.

My goal was to loose as much weight as possible, I purposely planned to become under-weight to an unhealthy extreme. I thought this would enable me to demonstrate others how “strong” and “resilient” I could be by not eating.

Well, this didn’t turn out as planned and left me with a fifteen and a half years long battle with bulimia.

Over this period, I indeed was “thin enough” and I hoped I would be living happily in a body that I thought I should live in. However, it turned out differently. Those fifteen years came with a lot of sadness, loneliness, fear, depression, and anxiety. Additionally of course, the battle with food and being owned by bulimia and by those extremely strong urges to binge that come with this “package”.

Bulimia cost me so much; it cost me my teenage years and early to mid twenties when I should have had fun with friends (rather than spending most of my time alone binging and purging), my teeth, my health (I got diagnosed with severe osteoporosis by the age of nineteen, my digestive systems doesn’t work as it should and I may never be able to have children) and so much more.

Accepting and “liking” myself has always been hard for me. I remember that, even when I was a little girl, I always used to compare myself to others. I always thought that others were nicer, prettier, skinnier, smarter, better, more fun or whatever it may be than myself.

I have always found it very hard to accept and love myself, I have always put so much pressure on myself with the aim of being excellent as “normal” was just not good enough. Reflecting back now, I believe that at a very young age I had interpreted and taught myself that being excellent and a high-achiever was “the way” for me to feel loved or even to feel love worthy.

In all those years I didn’t live, I only lived to struggle for a body I had told myself for so long I should have.

About a year and a half ago, I realised that this can’t be it. I started to understand that the only way of becoming free from bulimia is to like myself, including my body. I tried once more to battle bulimia, but without success.

However the result was that within a short amount of time I put on the weight that I must have needed. This of course was initially too hard to accept and very overwhelming, which meant that I continued to restrict food over the course of the day with the hope of loosing this weight again. Ultimately this resulted in the continuation of those urges to binge.

About three months ago I started with the Bulimia Health Method. Initially I was not too optimistic, as over the past fifteen years I had tried so many strategies to end my bulimia but nothing helped. (I was hospitalised several times for multiple months, I did counselling for numerous years, I saw different dieticians, I participated in support groups, I tried hypnotherapy and other alternative treatments etc.) In fact I almost had accepted that being bulimic is who I was.

Over the past three months following the Bulimia Help Method I didn’t put on any extra weight on (I guess, I must have reached my natural set point), but I started to accept my body for what it is and what it needs to be. I stopped trying to control my weight and rather focused on my wish to be healthy and free from bulimia.

For seven weeks I have now been binge and purge free I still can’t believe that this is true (but I do realise that I am still in very early stages of recovery). I never even considered that this would be possible for me, especially after having lived with bulimia for so many years.

I can’t describe how amazing the past weeks have been. I have never felt so free and happy. I am no longer a slave to incredibly strong urges to binge. I have been living life over the past weeks.

Yes, I live!

I am now more active, I enjoy going to yoga or a run, I come home from work and do something nice, something that I like, I meet friends, I read books, and I sometimes even take the time to look at the sky and sunset and there are so many more things I am free to do. I enjoy these days. I also found pleasure in eating and cooking for others and myself. I chew and taste different flavours of different foods.

Given such long battle with food I would have never even imagined that I could ever be capable of doing so. I am no longer terrified of having to eat with others; I even eat foods that I didn’t “allow” myself to eat for so long.

I now sit down with my husband for dinner and we share a meal together. I am now able to do all of this, rather than binging every evening, hiding and hoping that my husband wouldn’t find out about it. I have found freedom.

I now look in the mirror and I see this extra weight, which I have started to accept and I am even beginning to like. I started to accept me for who I am, including my body and my weight, which is defined by my genetics.

I always was extremely fearful of reaching a certain weight. However having faced this fear, I realised that absolutely nothing happened. I am still myself, just happier and no longer controlled by bulimia.

I learned that it is not worth “messing around with weight” as ultimately I cannot change it. I look at myself now and see a healthy (still young) woman, who is happy and who lives life.

Of course, I won’t pretend. I still have many moments when I wish I were skinnier. I’m still very critical about the area especially around my belly, which is exacerbated by the fact that I’m still constantly bloated – something I struggle with a lot. I also guess to some extent every woman (and man) has (have) those moments; I cannot think of one friend of mine who doesn’t have those thoughts (which most likely is a result of the society we live in, where skinny is perfect and beautiful).

I also think that I most likely will always have those moments and thoughts. However, I just don’t let them influence and dominate me as much anymore. I overpower those thoughts and moments by emphasising on the amazing changes I recently experienced which makes me realise how much happier I am now.

I learned how happiness, contentment and health are so much more valuable than a few kilos here or there. I focus on these positive things, when looking in the mirror again. I rather choose life and quality of living over fighting my body.

I have learned this the hard way (and continue to learn) that I cannot win this fight. I have learned and strongly believe, that in the end, how much we weigh is completely irrelevant and it is so much more important to be able to live for who we are and loving the way we are meant to be.

Lena (Melbourne and Vienna)


Thank you for sharing your story with us Lena. You are an inspiration!

Using mental rehearsal to prevent binge eating

Well it’s that time of year again.

The holiday season is almost upon us and I know from my own experiences how completely terrifying and exhausting this time of year can be.

I used to stress constantly about holiday dinner parties, I avoided all extra treats and threw away any food gifts I received. I drank too much wine at parties because I felt insecure and nervous. I also turned down invitations to certain gatherings where I knew I would be especially triggered.

It was certainly a challenge.

So I decided today was the perfect time to share one of my favourite tips for surviving the holiday season when you’re in recovery.

Mental Rehearsal

Mental rehearsal works on the simple principle that your nervous system cannot tell the difference between a real or vividly imagined thought. So when you imagine performing a situation, you are in a way training your brain to perform this way in real life. This process isn’t intended to build unrealistic expectations; it is simply designed to improve your readiness for the real situation.

How to use mental rehearsal

This doesn’t have to take long at all, just close your eyes and take a few minutes to visualize the upcoming meal.

Imagine yourself acting confidently, feeling happy and making food choices that are recovery-friendly.

Imagine the food on your plate, delicious, not too little and not too much.

Imagine yourself feeling content throughout your meal and peaceful at the end with no urges to continue eating no matter how delicious it all was.

Imagine yourself dealing with any bulimic urges in a calm and recovery-focused manner. You are accepting them without allowing them to knock you off balance.

Imagine yourself dealing with others in a peaceful and calm way too. See yourself no longer feeling triggered in this environment.

Ask yourself what will you eat? how much will you eat? what will you have for desert? Then visualise your plan going successfully.

On the flip side also visualize any potential challenges and come up with a strategy for dealing with these things.

Do you have a family member who always comments on your weight? Visualise your response to their comments.

Is a certain dish triggering for you? Visualise an alternative available that you are comfortable eating.

Don’t forget to visualise including some of those wonderful festive foods as part of your meals and snacks so you don’t feel mentally deprived. How and when will you eat them?

Give it a go and see if it makes those specific meal scenarios a little more manageable. You may be surprised by just how powerful this exercise can be.

In health and love!

Ali Kerr

What would you choose?

If someone asked you whether you were average or beautiful what would you say?

Well in this short video clip a group of women were asked this question and you might be surprised by their response.

I know it can be very challenging to feel good about yourself when you are suffering from an eating disorder. But so many of us get into the habit of beating ourselves up for not being good enough, smart enough, capable enough, pretty enough, happy enough…etc. Eventually this negative self talk becomes routine, a habit, something that we just accept as part of our daily life. So lets try to break the habit. Even if just for a single day and give your mind and self esteem a much needed break.

So for one day, I challenge you to accept yourself. Accept that you may not be perfect, you may not be everything you hoped you would be, but that is ok. No one is perfect, we are all human and it is ok have issues, baggage and troubles. It is ok if a times you feel pain and hurt. It is ok if at times you feel fragile. It is ok if at times you don’t feel good enough.

So for a single day rather than compare yourself to some high standard or bar, lets remove the bar completely. Lets give yourself a break from the body bashing, negative self talk and inner criticism. Lets see if for one day we can lets it all slide, take a big breath and just accept who we are.

I know for many of you that may sound like a scary, challenging concept, but give it a go for one day and see how it makes you feel

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